What you notice you create more of

What you focus on expands.

If what we really want for our lives is the same as what we are telling ourselves (and others) we want, things can happen in our favor. 

Strong intention (what we want) + sufficient action (acting on what we want) = greater chance of things moving in a good direction.

Put another way, our intentions are strongest when what we want in life aligns with our life choices.

Aligning the head and the heart isn’t easy. 

An action/vision board can help. So can writing about what you want. 

But here’s the thing: you have to be honest with yourself.

In my life as a freelancer, if I don’t tell people I’m looking for work, I stand no chance at finding work. 

The same goes for—anything. 

“I’m officially looking for my dream man!” my friend declared over coffee the other day.

We have to:

  • imagine 

  • focus our attention

  • alert the Universe

  • ask/act/declare

Our brain-bodies don’t know the difference between sitting on an actual beach and imagining we are on that beach. Our physiological response to these is the same.

It’s like they say: dress for the job you want.

Actions are signals.

Tara Swart:

When you allow your brain to be conscious of and focus on what you want in life, the raised awareness that results will work in your favor to automatically bring opportunities into your life. It’s not magic —it’s just that you are able to see the possibilities to move forward with your dreams in a way that your brain was hiding from you previously.

It kind of does sound like magic. Worth a try? 

Just get the words down

This came to me in a dream. 

Process > perfection 

Here’s another one: 

Failure > Not having tried

Taking a risk is like anything else: it gets easier with practice. 

Letting go of perfection allows the process to unfold in beautiful and unexpected ways. 

Just get it down:

  • the idea

  • the words

  • the drawing 

SFDs, my daughter calls them. 

Shitty First Drafts. 

You gotta start somewhere. Here is a good place to start. 

Be a self-enthusiast

Nothing grows without delight.

Growing up I was taught that pride was bad. It is when it tips over into arrogance or disregard for others.

But pride is not actually a sin. Pride is neutral and an important human emotion.

At its basic, pride is the natural sensation of delight in growth. We delight ourselves because we did something we didn’t know we could do.

Gardeners know this feeling. Artists know it. Friends know this, too.

Last week I had coffee with a friend. At the end she hugged me goodbye and said “I delight in you.”

The feeling was mutual.

Showing delight in someone gives that person fuel to keep going.

Pride and gratitude are bedfellows. Both give us courage.

Enthusiasm for our own progress might be the most powerful motivator we have.

  • When have you felt most proud?

  • What makes you hold your head high and stand up tall?

  • What makes you want to share your good news with others?

  • What makes you proud of you?

Let’s feel good about feeling good.